For the Ones Who Healed First: Now You Want to Become a Mother

Written By: Dr. Chelsea Dakers ND | Edited By Sena (AI)

You did the healing work.
You’re not “done” (are we ever?), but there’s a steadiness now. A foundation.

You’ve weathered storms—soul-deep ones.
You’ve worked with healers, teachers, guides.
You’ve poured time, energy, money, and whole chapters of your life into reclaiming your health.

And now…
You feel grounded. More whole.

And you’re realizing:
You want to become a mother.

Maybe this desire snuck up on you. Maybe you never imagined this path— not after everything your body has carried.
Maybe you’ve been on birth control for years, focused elsewhere.
Maybe you’ve never spent much time thinking about womb wellness.
Maybe you don’t even know if your body can get pregnant.

You hear stories online—complicated fertility journeys, cautionary tales, the “geriatric pregnancy” label that’s supposed to make you feel behind.

But you’re not behind.
You’re right on time.

You want to do this naturally.
And you want to begin with reverence, not panic.
So… where do you start?

Here are some grounded considerations:

1. Let your healing count.
All the deep work you’ve done to become who you are now? It matters.
Your nervous system regulation is more robust. Your intuition is sharper. Your self-trust is hard-won.
This is the foundation you’ll build motherhood on.

2. Yes, this will ask more of you—but you’re ready.
Having a child later in life means committing to health for the long haul.
But you already know how to prioritize self-care. You’ve been practicing that for years.
You’re not starting from scratch—you’re levelling up your processes.

3. Tune in to your cycle.
Learn your rhythm:
Menstrual. Follicular. Ovulatory. Luteal.
Let it become familiar, not clinical.
There’s wisdom in each phase—energy, sensitivity, timing.

4. Let sex be sacred again.
After years (or decades) of trying not to get pregnant, this chapter can feel radically different.
Let intimacy be pleasurable, not performative.
Don’t rush into “timed intercourse.”
It can rob joy and build pressure.
Trust that connection matters just as much as timing.

5. Redefine your relationship with time.
The pressure of a ticking clock is real—but not sovereign.
Smile when you feel it.
Come back to the modalities, tools, and practices that have supported you all along.
You know how to regulate, how to soften, how to be with what is.
You’re not late. You’re right on time.

Let this next season unfold with the same devotion you’ve given to your healing.
Motherhood—if it’s meant to be—doesn’t require urgency.
It asks for presence, partnership, and a body that feels safe enough to receive.

You’ve already come so far.
Now, you get to walk forward from wholeness—not desperation.

Learn more about Dr. Chelsea ND’s approach to hormone healing at chelseadakers.com or join the conversation on Instagram @chelseacreateshealth.

The disclaimer… The amazing thing about humans is that we all have incomparably unique health profiles and needs. The health-related information contained in this article is intended to be general in nature and should not be used prescriptively or a as a substitute for a visit with a naturopathic doctor. This info is intended to offer general information to individuals. If you have questions about how these strategies could be used in adjunct to your current heath regime, book and appointment with us or consult a licensed naturopathic doctor for individualized care.